5 THINGS I WISH I KNEW AFTER A MISCARRIAGE

 As newly Weds, my husband and I agreed we will start having children immediately and as luck would have it, i missed my period that month and knew right away that I was pregnant. We were happy and kept the news to ourselves. At 7 weeks I was having serious abdominal cramps and a bit of spotting, we went to the hospital,had a scan and got the news that we lost the pregnancy, an evacuation was immediately advised by the doctor and it was carried out, it was quite painful. 

The whole miscarriage experience had an effect not just on my body but on my mental health also. This topic is one that is hardly spoken about. I wished I had someone I could free open up to when it happened to me,it would have saved me from so many mental stress and helped me move on quicker.

 




Things I wished I knew after a miscarriage


1.YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Miscarriages are more common than you know, if only we talk about it more,we will find out that 2 in every 5 women have experienced it and went on to have children after the experience.


2.IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT

A miscarriage is never anyone's fault, sometimes there are no medical explanations to these things and sometimes there are. Either ways don't blame and beat yourself up about it. I wish someone told me this because I felt I did something wrong and was looking for what was not missing in my body. 

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!


3. TALK ABOUT IT

If you feel the need to talk about it please do but it is important to look for the right person or professional to talk to. Talk to someone who have had similar experience, someone who could relate to how you feel about losing pregnancy. I believe you will feel better when you hear their experience and how they navigated life after such a loss.




4. DON'T BOTTLE YOUR GRIEF

I wasn't the crying type so it felt weird when I had the urge to. I kept pushing it down and ignoring it but it was doing me any good. I was always on the edge, communication became very stiff between my husband and I.  I got angry easy and was almost lashing out at him. 

I was finally able to grief properly after speaking to someone with a similar experience and it was so relieving after I did. So grief the best way you know how and don't feel stupid doing so.


5. YOU WILL STILL FEEL PREGNANT

I was still having pregnancy symptoms after the evaluation infact I thought I was still pregnant but it faded away after some weeks. Your body actually thought it just had a baby so it will act like one, it also best you treat yourself like you would postpartum.

 

Pregnancy is a blessing, losing it is not. Feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to. Remember you are not ALONE.


WHAT'S YOUR MISCARRIAGE EXPERIENCE,HOW DID YOU COPE WITH IT, PLEASE SHARE IN THE COMMENT SECTION.

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